a few minutes ago
Do you want to know a secret? Being married is hard work. And when you throw in two young kids, and working parents who are both self employed, it gets that bit harder again.
Yesterday was our 8 year wedding anniversary and it made me think about this marriage thing. We've been together since I was half way through first year at uni, so we have faced some pretty big life challenges together. Things like graduation, moving house 4 times, moving to 3 different towns, getting my first real adult job, being made redundant, getting employed again and being promoted, starting my own business, investing in a farm, getting married, losing grandparents, traveling overseas together, having a baby, and then having another.
We have had some really high highs, but there have also been some pretty shitty lows. There have been weeks where we haven't spoken to each other at all. The truth is that marriage isn't always a walk in the park.
It probably doesn't help that with my job I get to spend a day with my couples on one of the times they will feel the most in love with each other. Over summer almost bi weekly I get to see that fresh can't keep your hands off each other love. And then I get to sit at my computer for 40 hours and look at it on the computer while I edit through the photos. So when hubby comes in after work and gets a beer rather than giving me a kiss first, it grinds my gears haha.
But equally if I have a wedding a few hours out of town he will check my oil, because he knows I won't. Or after dinner he might bring my cup of tea over to me. And when I was on prep, if he had physio in the evening, he would bring me home KFC Wicked Wings for my before bed protein 😍
I don't really know where I was going with this haha. But I think the moral of the story is marriage takes work and can be hard. And the longer you have been together the less grand gestures you will find. So when your man is sitting on the couch with that beer after work and you're cooking tea while giving him the death stare, just keep in mind those little gestures. Because they all add up.