11 minutes ago
I had a client.
She hated everything about her life.
Her house, her job, her body, her romantic relationship (or lack thereof). One she would consistently try to change was her romantic relationship. Every other week she met a new guy and every other week she was "broken up" with. As we explored this it became clear THIS focus was the safest for her. She didn't have to be responsible - it was the other person's fault or failing never her's.
She had new job opportunities but they (to her) were never "right." More money, more responsibility, closer to her education, experience, and career goals but there was always a justification as to why they weren't right. They were perfectly legitimate reasons to her as they usually are.
She didn't think it was worth it to fix her home or body for various reasons, as well.
Ultimately, we had to part ways because she didn't *really* want to change. It was nice to talk about but
...that was it.
She didn't want to put in the work to change her life.
Maybe she liked having something to complain about? Maybe she felt so overwhelmed she couldn't. Maybe it was easier to blame others and never take responsibility.
Ultimately, no one can make you change. Only you can put in the work to change and you will only do that when the pain of staying where you are outweighs the fear of getting where you want to be.
What do you want to change?
If you need help, reach out I can help if/when you're ready.